Can women truly have friendships with men without any level of sexual frustration attraction or chemistry?
This question was put to me three years ago, just after my arrival to University, my response? Well it was one of anger and frustration, of course I have male friends that I have never had a sexual link to, but when answering this question I was very much in love with my then boyfriend and would never have looked at another man. The man who put this point to me all those years ago was single and hadn't been laid in a very long time and I just put it down to his sexual frustration. Now having lived the single life for the last couple of months this point came back to me when I realized that I had a lot of sexual chemistry towards my male friends and it wasn't because I wasn't getting laid and just needed sexual release (although I did go through quite a lot of batteries at that point). I realized that most of the men around me I had either kissed, flirted with or at the very least fantasied about! But what has shocked me is how men react to my flirting now that I am single, now don't get me wrong I like many other ladies flirt when red lighted (taken) I find its like window shopping on Bond Street. What I didn't realize was how the dynamics of the flirting game had changed, every word, wink, touch means far more because now it can lead to more in such a case of when one male friend (who is taken) asked me to follow him after a couple of drinks for a kiss behind closed doors ( don't worry I have learnt my lesson with guys with girlfriends). So with proof I can honestly say that yes in some cases you can be friends with a man and not be attracted in all cases those men are usually fugly! But in 99% of cases there has to be a level of chemistry to have the foundations of friendship, it's just when that friendship leads onto more.
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